Even if it comes from the simplest gesture for a girl, a guys' intentions will always be there. There is no escapism from the pure friendship zone mindset. So, let's play a role here ;
1. Scenario 1
Guy offers a drink to girl. Girl accepts and she just take it like oh, a sign of being a gentlemen. If things workout more than that, it would be great but if it isn't. It's just too bad and there's isn't anything wrong for being a friend with a guy right? But does the guy feels the same way? The answer is no. They felt like they have to settle to a consolation prize after that. Why is that so? Cos in the first place, they have already place their intention to hope for a chance to be the girl or for those real desperados would be getting into their pants/skirts.
2. Scenario 2
Girl offers a drink to the guy instead. Guy have hopes thinking that would be a green light head start. But is there any real intention behind the girl? It's a 50-50 thing. Why? Because some girls may just choosed to be humble/generous in buying a drink for a guy. To justified if she has any real intentions in it. Simple, just wait and see..girls actions when they really like that guy are easy to indicate.
Now, assumed Scenario 1 when the guy got accepted as a friend. And from then on, life is just gonna be forever friends and no turning backs which means for most guys...it's doomed right? But I'm not sure if guys like those realised that most of the time, they get 'privilleges' probably even better than the position of a boyfriend of course minus the what-a-normal-r'ship-couple-ppl-usually-does'. Think about who would be the first person to know when she breaks up besides her normal girl friends and times when she has a little dark secrets. What about times when she will stood up for that guy-friend for some little help that he may need. So, for guys..is it hard to be in a friendship zone with the girl they like is a question of let's face it,if you have sooo many guy friends,why can't they be a number of girl-friends?I'm sure they will be times when they are better solutions to a certain problem you can find from girl-friends. And who knows that they maybe better in providing advice?
In conclusion, may I suggest that they are no such like a deathtrap in this whole friend zone thing but there's no justification either because both ways (ie. guy taking the girl a 'buddy') are just equally the same case. It's just facts of life depending on how one individual treating a friend from opposite gender like.
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